It’s well known that to gain someone’s trust isn’t easy and takes a lot of time to become solid. Well, trust that’s built for years can be destroyed in seconds. But, trust me too, I am going to tell you how to gain anyone’s trust like the masters of trust.
Having someone who trusts you and could boldly tell others about the kind of person you are especially when the one who trusts you is in a position of authority is a very cool achievement. This sometimes automatically earns you the trust of other people as well.
This is a very big advantage/ opportunity as gaining other people’s trust opens doors of more advantages for one.
People who trust you give you chances in their personal life and even in their businesses. They assign you tasks they ordinarily may not be willing to give out to people.
Why? Because they believe you will do well with it. Therefore, gaining other people’s trust will help one to reach heights and receive help even when you least expect to.
However, gaining the trust of other people is not very easy especially when people who have trust issues are involved. When these sorts of people are involved, it becomes hard because naturally they expect you to betray their trust, naturally they expect you to fail them.
But proving your worth through your words and actions will help you to get to people, familiarize yourself with them and earn their trust without tricks.
Before I let the cat out of the bag, let me tell you one thing that can mar your progress in this journey of gaining people’s trust.
Trust gained by tricks will not last and will need tricks to keep it working. If someone finds out you made them trust you when you don’t deserve it, gaining back that trust is like trying to find out how many times you breathe in oxygen daily.
Don’t take shortcuts. Unless you have ill plans, don’t trick someone into trusting you.
Here are ways of gaining trust without tricks
How To Gain Trust The Right Way
Whether it’s all about gaining back trust in a relationship, building trust in your workplace or in any situation, these tips will definitely make you someone others can and will always trust naturally.
Hope you trust me to do what I just said.
Be yourself
Give up pretending, lies and being fake if you want to gain trust. Show people who you really are and let them know you are proud to be that person.
Do not allow being fake to be the basis upon which you live your life. Stand upright and be great-it shows that you have trust in your own person and your ability. This will also allow people to trust you.
Fulfill Promises
If you want people to trust you and always take your words for it, fulfill any promises made, not once, not twice but at a lot of time interval.
If you promise to carry out a task within a stipulated time interval, do that as soon as possible and do it dutifully.
Do not be a crook
People hate crooked people and therefore do not trust them. If you want to gain trust, put your cards on the table when you have to and do your best not to have other trump cards hidden.
Do not give anyone a reason to distrust you
If you said you were going to do something (help or even carry out a task) do not do or say anything that will leave people doubting you. When people have complete faith in your ability, they are more likely to trust you
Have a standing good integrity
People who are known to be honest, straightforward and truthful are more likely to be trusted than the opposite. Have a standing integrity and do not betray it for any reason. This will allow you to gain trusts as one who is an advocate of good integrity.
Respect other people’s intelligence
When people are betrayed, they feel foolish for not having seen through the facade and knowing the betrayer’s intention. Make people feel good about them themselves and give compliments sincerely. With this, they will like you and then trust you.
Avoid Gossip
Distance yourself from gossiping and backbiting. People tend to dislike and distrust gossipers and backbiter. They know they will spin stories out of nothing just to get attention.
Be available and accessible when needed
Do not be over available such that you will be taken for granted but be available enough for people to trust your availability. Form a trend such that they know that they can call on you at any time when the need arises. This will also allow people to trust your presence when needed.
Be Committed
Commitment for a lot of people comes from trust. If your commitment to whatever you are doing can be vouched for by others. Then, other people will trust you as well.
Be Loyal
Stick to a side you have chosen and fight the battle till the very end. Do not keep changing side due to favor. Support whoever you are supporting till the very end.
This will make you a known stickler such that people in the group (wherever you find yourself) can be assured of your loyalty to them till the very end. Then you can gain their trust with this.
Show Vulnerability
It’s good to be strong and able; however, you have to show that you also have weaknesses at some time. This will tell people without words that you can be accessed.
When you show vulnerability, others will be able to approach you for advice because they know you also have weaknesses. It will show them you aren’t a perfect demigod.
Keep Secrets!
Yes! This is very important if you want to gain trust. Do not be the one with a waggling tongue. Keep secrets when you are told to do so and do not use it to mock or blackmail the owners.
One secret spilled will bring down all the trust to a zero level. And you know what that means.
Trust too!
A popular saying goes thus, “You can’t give what you do not have”. If you want someone to trust you, first you have to trust them. This will act like the bedrock to form a cordial relationship based on trust.
Develop good judgment
When you are making a decision, consider facts and figures and use them as your guide in decision making. Ensure that you always do your best to get positive results. With positive results at hand, people will come to trust your sense of judgment.
Be a good leader
When you are in a position to lead, do your utmost best to be a good leader. Do the necessary, act your part, assign duties and be patient. It’s all about been a good leader such that your followers will trust you and have the least of doubt in your leadership ability.
Do not be bias
There may be a time when you are in a position to select, assign or pick people for a task. Do not be bias.
Be known for your integrity such that when your choice is questioned, many will vouch for your integrity and whoever assigned you can also be rest assured that your choice is the best.
At different points and for different reasons, people give their trust. However, it is the way you handle it that determines if you will keep it. Do your best not to disappoint people who trust you.
Now I just got your trust right? If you found this really helpful, sharing it with your friends and loved ones could make them smile and even trust you the more.
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