Life has been arranged in such a way that man and woman has to meet to procreate.
The official knot tying of a man and woman is of course, marriage. Which as expected by many is supposed to last a lifetime.
Marriage is presumed to be supposed to full of heavenly joy, happiness and bliss while bringing forth happy kids as its product.
It is quite unfortunate though that some marriages do not last very long before the parties involve separate or even divorce.
This, they do on the account of so many things, one of which includes the fact that their counterpart is not good enough.
As a man, here are tips for you to put to place to see to it that you are a good husband to your wife and that your marriage lasts longer.
How To Be A Good Husband
- Love her and show that you do
Of course you love her, isn’t that why you marry her? But do you show her that you do?
Time and time again we are so caught up in the fact that we are married and settled that we forget to show our partner that we still love them.
If you love your partner, understand their love language and speak that language to them.
- Show that you care
It is commonly known that guys do not know how to express themselves with action; rather they are mostly good with words.
If you really care about your wife and you want to be a good husband, show that you care.
- Use words too
That you should show that you care doesn’t mean you should stop using words. Make use of the sweet words as much as possible and serenade your wife.
- Pay attention
Women love to be listened to and paid attention to whenever they are talking or discussing, so pay your wife as much attention as you can.
Staring at the TV, playing games or chatting with friends when your wife is trying to talk to you annoys her. Avoid these.
Do not just give her the attention when she needs it, listen as well so that in the end you can give her advice or help her with decision-making if it has to do with one.
It annoys women to realize that after all the talking she did, you barely grasp a thing
- Create time for her
Of course, being married takes its toll on everyone what with work, kids and other stuffs.
But still, find time to bound with your wife, it’s the only thing that will ensure that your marriage remains evergreen.
- Trust her
One of the core basis of any marriage is trust. Trust your partner and always give her the benefit of the doubt. Do not always jump into conclusion or judge her so fast.
- Respect her
Whenever she makes choice pertaining to her life or your general relationship, learn to respect her choices. Show that you respect her as well and do not treat her with indignity.
- Do not cheat
When a man cheats on her woman, it makes her look dumb. Yea! Like she was dumb enough not to notice your lies or that she was so dumb that she didn’t notice something was amiss.
If you aren’t interested in her again, tell her in the gentlest way you can, but don’t ever cheat on her.
- Avoid lies
Lying to your wife is no better than cheating. Lies also diminish trust. So no matter what is going on, always try to come clean to your wife.
Lies breaks trust in any relationship, so avoid it or things that will make you lie to her.
- Help her
Offer to do things for her, even when she doesn’t ask. As the woman, she may be in charge of the house, but it’s your home too.
It won’t hurt to do the dishes once in a while or take out the garbage.
- Do not shout at her or go violent with her
A man who raises his hand to hit a lady is referred to as a beast. No matter what happens, always keep your anger in check. Avoid raising your voice at her or even hitting her. It’s not humane and may also affect her self esteem.
- Remember important dates
This is known to usually cause argument between couples as guys are so bad with dates. If you know you are bad with dates, you can set up a reminder of about three days to the event to ensure you do not forget.
Remembering birthdays and anniversary are very important for women.
- Understand Body languages
A lot of times, women do not talk to you about how they are feeling directly, however their body language and mood speaks louder than any word would have.
Learn to watch out for this and understand what each of your wife’s mean.
- Avoid looking for faults
If you continue to look for faults in everything that your wife is doing, definitely, you will see them because she’s only human not perfect.
Do not let her faults be the first thing you look for or the only thing that you find in her.
- Avoid criticizing at all times
It may come naturally to you to react to whatever happens, but do not let that become a norm. Avoid criticizing her at all times. However, correct her with love when the need arises.
Another important basis of a relationship is communication. Communicate with your wife and tell her how you feel when something is not going right.
Easily with communication, you can solve a lot of problems and help each other to overcome obstacles.
Do your best to communicate with your partner, it’s the only way you will ever know what she really feels or what she really wants.
- Talk about your finances
Discussing your finance also helps you and the family as a whole. Talk about your bills, your next holiday plans, loans as well as other things.
Do not just make decisions about the family’s finance without informing your wife, it makes her feel left out
- Surprise her
Women love surprises, the positive ones of course, surprise your wife with gifts, shoes, chocolate or any other thing she loves.
It puts her in a good mood and she feels appreciated with gifts.
I would end this by saying, just do all you have to do to be that good husband tour wife always wants. It will affect your children and whoever is around your home.
Help your friends by sharing this wonderful post and feel free to drop a feedback in the comments section.